Have you ever wanted to do something special to honor the most important people in your life? I did. Have you ever wanted to do that something special to make the most important people know how much you appreciate them? I did. Have you ever used the excuse of your birthday to invite these people to a surprise dinner to honor them? I did. Just recently as a matter of fact. Following is a schedule of events.
This year for my birthday, I wanted to do something different; something that didn’t evolve around me. This led to a plan to honor three of the most impactful men in my life: my earthly father, my high school basketball coach and my mentor in college. They thought they were coming to celebrate me for my birthday, but were surprised to discover the dinner was to honor them.
After everyone arrived and pleasant conversation had taken place, I gave a quick introduction and disclosed the purpose of the gathering. Each aspect of dinner was served to honor each individuals: the fajitas for my coach, the flavored tea for my mentor and “mom’s quick cherry cobbler” for my dad. During the time we ate and then moved into the living area, I posed multiple questions that related directly to our relationship:
What was your first thought during our first meeting?
What is one of the most pleasant memories you have of our time together?
What is one thing you are glad you taught me?
What is one thing I was able to teach you?
The questions were thought provoking and the answers were entertaining. We shared lots of laughs and together recalled many fond memories. After the questions, and before the first couple had to leave, I passed out letters to each participate. To the wives, I created a letter of thanks. To the men, I wrote a letter from their Heavenly Father. It was such a pleasant experience.
After considering the event for a week’s time, there are a few realizations that I had. Firstly, it was very good for my earthly father to see and meet the good and godly men that have impacted my life while at home and away at college. Secondly, this event of honor was much needed for everyone. I believe it brought healing and encouragement to their hearts as well as mine.
As I grow in the concept of honor, I realize how little honor there is in the world and in most relationships. This lack of honor is the reason for the website; the reason for gifts; the reason I don’t charge for my services; and the reason I am planning on opening a forge to invest in and honor men in the future.
Me encouragement for everyone is to seize the opportunity to honor those around you…everyday. Use your words to compliment them and describe the value they have in your life. Use gifts to add value to their lives. Honor people with your body language, being fully engaged during conversation. Use your money to invest in people and purposes. You have opportunities every day to honor those around you. Don’t waste them.