We know how difficult it can be to give gifts; deciding what to get, where to get it, how to get it, time frame, price range, how to present it, and whom to present it with, etc. That’s why we are here! We are here to help you not only choose the most appropriate blade, but also to help you prepare your presentation. For your benefit, we have included 10 principles that have helped us give more effectively.
- Try not to be influenced by time pressures.
There is a perfect timing to the presentation of gifts, just like the timing to a certain note when playing music. You can give when they are discouraged, at the end of the day, after everyone else has given their birthday gifts, in private, etc. Many times, you haven’t missed the perfect opportunity. Even a “late” gift of encouragement will make a profound impact. The more you give, the more aware you will become of the perfect moment to give.
- Try not to be influenced by money pressures.
Honor, along with other qualities such as love, courage, etc, is not dependent on money, but may be influenced by it. The more money you apply toward a certain gift, the more honor you are investing in someone. But, always remember, the perfect gift may cost $25,$300 or even well into the thousands. One principle that influences my giving is this: If you are able, bless someone’s socks off”. It is refreshing when someone cares more about honoring you than they do the price of the gift they are giving. How do you think you would feel?
- When doing research: watch, listen and learn.
When you have decided to honor someone with a gift and you are in the research phase, watch what catches their attention, listen to what they say when you ask them about their interests and learn what motivates them. You can always find the perfect gift for anyone, you simply have to spend time around them. Remember those small, cheap gifts you have received in the past that you still keep around because so much thought went into them? You can give like that too.
- Have a clear understanding of the purpose/reason behind the gift.
Simon Sinek suggested in his book, “Start With Why”, that when you understand the purpose and intent behind the gift, it will help define your research and make the selection process significantly easier. One way the process becomes easier is by automatically removing items that do not fit the “Why”. This is the first step in how I give.
- Write down your motivation and read it.
Writing down what you want them to know will help you remember what to say during your presentation and will allow the recipient to revisit the “letter of encouragement” for years to come. I remember a recipient of a sword and letter once said, “The gift was exactly what I needed…the sword is pretty cool too”. Words have the ability to take root in our soul. Go ahead them to make the gift more memorable.
- Do away with any selfish motivations.
There is often nothing worse than a good gift with strings attached. It would be far better to deny the gift all together at times. When you give your gift, we suggest that you refrain from a “you-owe-me” mentality. At this moment in time, the focus is about honoring the recipient, not seeing how you can benefit from the situation. How would you like to be a fish on the receiving end of the “gift” from a fisherman?
- Utilize the “Power of Presentation”.
Many times, the presentation is just as important as the gift itself and is the reason why companies spend thousands of dollars each year on presenting their brand. Listed are a few thoughts to consider when planning your presentation.
- Is it best to give in private or public? If in public, how big is the assembly? Is there cause for a formal occasion where specific dress is most appropriate? Is there someone the recipient respects that should be present during the presentation?
- Do you wrap the gift or give it plainly? If you wrap it, do you go with the classic comic strip newspaper or brown paper with paracord tied in a specific knot?
- What colors should you emphasize? Science supports that colors can influence emotions and feelings. What do you want the recipient to feel? What colors should you be wearing? What colors do you want to wrap your gift in if you are wrapping it?
- When do you give it? When they are having a rough time? When they are high on life? Do you hand it to them or place it where they will be sure to find it?
- How much do you talk about the purpose of the gift? Too much and you could loose impact. Too little could open the door for lack of clarity and encouragement.
- Allow yourself to be excited about the gift. It is easier for them to be excited about the gift when you are too. Excitement is contagious.
- Give in confidence and don’t feel bad if you miss the mark.
Since we have already decided to not be pressured by time and money, we can use that energy to build our confidence in our giving. Because you have already done an excellent job researching and planning, confidence should come easier. You are now in a position to feel just as confident about a $25 gift as you would a $300 gift. If you realize that you gave the wrong gift, you have two options: 1) Try to fix it by giving the correct gift or 2) Learn from it and move on. Whenever and whatever you give, give with confidence.
- Get help when needed.
There is plenty of help out there when your research and gut instinct don’t seem to be enough. You can pay for professional services or ask some friends for assistance. You might be able to find a good website or two that can guide you further into the giving process. Someone is always willing to help.
- Follow your gut instinct.
Everyone has gut instinct. Sadly, most people don’t listen to it. If the gift you have decided on doesn’t feel right, back off and reassess the situation. Try to find out why it doesn’t feel right: Is it timing? Should you spend more or less money? Should you purchase a completely different gift? Should you give in private instead of public? Your gut will let you know. If everything feels right, move forward. Remember, you have to live with the gift you give, just like they do.
As you go through the process of choosing the right gift, remember that you have help. We are here for you no matter where in the process you are. Don’t hesitate to contact us.